Play the game with me : What is it about escapes that lock us in?
A few weeks ago, a friend of mine discussed what it was like to watch her friend's husband dive into a world where there are no problems, no responsibility, and zero guilt, just a challenge that they had to beat. He spends hours on his computer, shooting down warlocks, defeating dragons, simulating a battle, or conquering a quest, meanwhile his son sits in a corner and waits to be heard. I was at the dog park, and as I listened a wave of fear washed over me... this can't be what consumes people from life is it? We escape to softer, calmer, pleasuring things, whether it be drinking alcohol, sex, video games, novels, movies, clubbing, cutting, complaining, negativity; any of these things and more, we look to them for solace and answers. The answer won't be there, in fact it never was. The man asks his wife to play with him and their son to learn how to play these video games, as if it will absolve the greater issue: he does not want to see the world in front of him,...