LDR : the long and the short of it
I am not talking about Lana Del Ray people! I am referring to the trials, tribulations, triumphs, and taxing one another; yet tastefully worth it in every-way---Long-distance relationships. The kind you told your your closest friends you swore you would never do because you thought you could never make it. The kind that can be debilitating, but altogether strengthening and rewarding for some.
You made a deal with God this life was about you and your self discovery, your work, your independence, and your choices as whole, but it holds no bearing, when someone walks into your world. You can choose to ignore the frightening, yet exhilarating possibility of taking a chance, or you can surge forward into something without expectations or proposed ideals of what your life should look like. Should, could, would, how do you even know what that is, until you are in it?
LDR to me was like a swear word you couldn't say at the dinner table, you just didn't do it, and you didn't even think about trying it out. The consequences could be dire, and what would everyone say if you crashed, or worse? Long distance relationships have become more common with today's ever changing job market and people are actually making them work, well I'd say for a fair percentage that is. I never was fond of being a military wife, or a trucker wife, navy wife, etc, or vice versa where I would be gone all the time from my spouse, and they wouldn't see me either.
Deep respect for those who can do this day in and day out for their significant other, as it is arduous and soul crushing at times. You don't know if they will make it back safely, you don't know sometimes where they sleep at night, etc. It is scary. I mean the ones you have the strength mad props from me, really. LDR is hard anyway you look at it wherever you are and wherever you stand; from the east coast to the west coast, to even the border or further out to international countries.
I truly still had my own initial reservations on it, maybe even still do. In fact before last year, if asked to start being in an LDR, I would say no and never, and that was the end of that. However, now, out of blind and willing trust, I entered in one awhile back. I am happy I did. I find I am learning so much about me, and in return taking the exciting risk of learning about them whether when we are together or apart.
Irregardless of whatever outcome or turn of events, I can stand here and say that they are rough, but they aren't that bad. Absence does truly make the heart grow fonder, and you figure out what works for you and what doesn't; meanwhile creating the building blocks, which as noted always starts with COMMUNICATION. I could go into a monotous monologue about what it takes to be in one, but I will save it for the unsung heroes fighting to keep their LDR's alive, who currently occupy a seat much more difficult than mine (essentially because no one's advice is as good as one's own with their spouse)
That being said, should people do it? Depends on your circumstances, how much you are ready to try, and many other factors? But the go for it and risk taker in me is telling you, why the hell not?
The worst that could occur (nope let's not even go there).... just try, and let me know how it goes!
Moxie signing off to enjoy a skype date, nite all <3
You made a deal with God this life was about you and your self discovery, your work, your independence, and your choices as whole, but it holds no bearing, when someone walks into your world. You can choose to ignore the frightening, yet exhilarating possibility of taking a chance, or you can surge forward into something without expectations or proposed ideals of what your life should look like. Should, could, would, how do you even know what that is, until you are in it?
LDR to me was like a swear word you couldn't say at the dinner table, you just didn't do it, and you didn't even think about trying it out. The consequences could be dire, and what would everyone say if you crashed, or worse? Long distance relationships have become more common with today's ever changing job market and people are actually making them work, well I'd say for a fair percentage that is. I never was fond of being a military wife, or a trucker wife, navy wife, etc, or vice versa where I would be gone all the time from my spouse, and they wouldn't see me either.
Deep respect for those who can do this day in and day out for their significant other, as it is arduous and soul crushing at times. You don't know if they will make it back safely, you don't know sometimes where they sleep at night, etc. It is scary. I mean the ones you have the strength mad props from me, really. LDR is hard anyway you look at it wherever you are and wherever you stand; from the east coast to the west coast, to even the border or further out to international countries.
I truly still had my own initial reservations on it, maybe even still do. In fact before last year, if asked to start being in an LDR, I would say no and never, and that was the end of that. However, now, out of blind and willing trust, I entered in one awhile back. I am happy I did. I find I am learning so much about me, and in return taking the exciting risk of learning about them whether when we are together or apart.
Irregardless of whatever outcome or turn of events, I can stand here and say that they are rough, but they aren't that bad. Absence does truly make the heart grow fonder, and you figure out what works for you and what doesn't; meanwhile creating the building blocks, which as noted always starts with COMMUNICATION. I could go into a monotous monologue about what it takes to be in one, but I will save it for the unsung heroes fighting to keep their LDR's alive, who currently occupy a seat much more difficult than mine (essentially because no one's advice is as good as one's own with their spouse)
That being said, should people do it? Depends on your circumstances, how much you are ready to try, and many other factors? But the go for it and risk taker in me is telling you, why the hell not?
The worst that could occur (nope let's not even go there).... just try, and let me know how it goes!
Moxie signing off to enjoy a skype date, nite all <3
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You go girl.
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