Child Mistake vs Adult Mistakes : What is the difference
As children we make mistakes, that adults call out as forgivable and we get to go on about our day as if nothing happened. We skin our knees, we steal cookies from the cookie jar, we paint the walls in the house, we hide mom and dad's money, we tattle on our siblings, etc are just some of the things we have done as children. Childish mistakes are innocent, they show us giving mom and dad the, "Yes I'm guilty, please don't punish me too harshly look."
As we age, that innocence fades. In a lot of households, as adults, to our parents, when we make mistakes their is shame attached, their is fear, there is judgement, and there is failure highlighted. Granted, not all homes have this, but some do. They model, the choices an adult makes or doesn't make is a reflection on their persona. So, if you make a mistake, you are crucified, or it feels like you are because you did something totally wrong. The mistakes as adults affect others in so many ways. We don't think we are bound to them until they are made.
Maybe you got pregnant at 16, maybe you lost your job at 18 (outside of your control or due to an addiction you currently have, alcohol, or substance abuse, etc), or you eat a lot of food or a substance and you go overboard and get incredibly sick, maybe you wreck a relationship with a boss or colleague, or you white lie, or cheat on someone you care about or you have a wild night and end up behind bars, maybe you spend too much money on necessary things and wind up in debt, or you get a divorce and the crash course to recovery looks bleak, or even neglecting your responsibilities, still acting like you are in high school like a drama or gossip king or queen.
These mistakes weigh more on us, because they have a much bigger impact after they happen. The first instance for some is to forget it happened, or keep making the same mistakes. While, still others, (if you are like me), you hold onto the mistake and you wear it like a warning glove everyday, and the responses, to yourself or from others are, "When will you ever learn? You are so lucky. What were you thinking?" etc. The truth is, you knew what you were thinking, and you made a mistake. Why? You are human. But instead of beating yourself up over it, you need to grow, learn from it, and move on. I am certain I am saying this to myself, because I sincerely probably am, but to know that you are alright, and that things will be okay is key for just about anyone. By God's grace, I am forgiven. Do mistakes hurt? Oh boy do they, but letting it run us, won't help.
Like a child is forgiven, as adults, we forget we have to forgive ourselves. Somewhere along the way, there is a disconnect in our hearts thinking we are not okay anymore, or that we can't be forgiven for our mistakes, or that we are not adequate. I am here to tell you we are. The bigger the mistake, the harder it is to not only learn from, but to forgive ourselves, and especially listen to others as we talk to them about it, and communicate on our process to recovery.
Right now, here today, if you made a mistake, ask God for grace, forgive yourself, forgive others. Remember this: You are not your mistake, sure it is apart of your life and always will be, but that mistake doesn't own you, or run you, unless you let it. Adults and childs alike, whatever our age, my hope and my prayer is we bind together and give love to ourselves.
Yes, be aware, signing up to not make the mistake again is certainly wise, and important, but to heal after it, is important as well. Have a wonderful day!
As we age, that innocence fades. In a lot of households, as adults, to our parents, when we make mistakes their is shame attached, their is fear, there is judgement, and there is failure highlighted. Granted, not all homes have this, but some do. They model, the choices an adult makes or doesn't make is a reflection on their persona. So, if you make a mistake, you are crucified, or it feels like you are because you did something totally wrong. The mistakes as adults affect others in so many ways. We don't think we are bound to them until they are made.
Maybe you got pregnant at 16, maybe you lost your job at 18 (outside of your control or due to an addiction you currently have, alcohol, or substance abuse, etc), or you eat a lot of food or a substance and you go overboard and get incredibly sick, maybe you wreck a relationship with a boss or colleague, or you white lie, or cheat on someone you care about or you have a wild night and end up behind bars, maybe you spend too much money on necessary things and wind up in debt, or you get a divorce and the crash course to recovery looks bleak, or even neglecting your responsibilities, still acting like you are in high school like a drama or gossip king or queen.
These mistakes weigh more on us, because they have a much bigger impact after they happen. The first instance for some is to forget it happened, or keep making the same mistakes. While, still others, (if you are like me), you hold onto the mistake and you wear it like a warning glove everyday, and the responses, to yourself or from others are, "When will you ever learn? You are so lucky. What were you thinking?" etc. The truth is, you knew what you were thinking, and you made a mistake. Why? You are human. But instead of beating yourself up over it, you need to grow, learn from it, and move on. I am certain I am saying this to myself, because I sincerely probably am, but to know that you are alright, and that things will be okay is key for just about anyone. By God's grace, I am forgiven. Do mistakes hurt? Oh boy do they, but letting it run us, won't help.
Like a child is forgiven, as adults, we forget we have to forgive ourselves. Somewhere along the way, there is a disconnect in our hearts thinking we are not okay anymore, or that we can't be forgiven for our mistakes, or that we are not adequate. I am here to tell you we are. The bigger the mistake, the harder it is to not only learn from, but to forgive ourselves, and especially listen to others as we talk to them about it, and communicate on our process to recovery.
Right now, here today, if you made a mistake, ask God for grace, forgive yourself, forgive others. Remember this: You are not your mistake, sure it is apart of your life and always will be, but that mistake doesn't own you, or run you, unless you let it. Adults and childs alike, whatever our age, my hope and my prayer is we bind together and give love to ourselves.
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