Meet you at the Crossroads
Hello Bloggers! I know it has been six months since I have written anything to y'all. Look whose talking southern now (giggles).
I honestly feel like it has been a season of change. Matt and I have had so much going on this year. We settled into our new home close to work in Huntsville in January. Rapidly pushed one another to unpack at a sprinter's pace (ok maybe that was just me...)and began to build, what is by far our cozy haven we call home. I put little knick knacks around the house to bring in life and color, and couldn't resist buying a door wreath to fit in with the Jones's.
The entire time we have been planning a wedding that is out of state and a destination dream. I am so glad it will be at a lodge close to my late grandparent's cabin (now owned by my parents). Fall forever people. I am praying there will be leaves everywhere for the big day. From decorations, to fighting over having a first look, to cake ideas, overloading on Pinterest, conversing with family planning with us from the west coast, and imagining our ideal wedding theme, it has been a whirlwind.We chose to go out of the country for our honeymoon; using a tour group saved on so much time and eliminated my stress and worry of trying to deal with a heavy weight. We still had to come up with what we would do before and after tour started, where to stay before and after etc, but it has worked out thankfully.
On top of all, this, Matt has been incredibly busy at work, trying more home projects, and finished an undertaking of building benches for our huge pool table to be a dual use dining table. I am in love with how it turned out. With all of the swirl, and wanting the perfect nest to share with our friends out here, we are becoming hamsters on a broken wheel!
Our relationship has been tested especially with our move out here and leaving our families, sometimes I have been tested by outside forces, or I have tested him, or vice versa. We are truly learning what it is like to be a team, to truly trust one another, and love no matter what the other person's mood or circumstances are. With so much happening in our lives, we committed to once a week date nights, which is a reminder, that although we live in the same place, time together is valuable and essential. It doesn't even have to be going out, it can be staying in, and watching a good show or playing a board game. It makes a huge difference to connect and also spend time with Mia too, who sometimes needs extra attention since we both work 9 hr days.
Amongst all of the crazy, has been my mind trip and standing at the crossroad of unrest and fear, since I arrived. When you plan an out of state wedding, and most of your friends are back home, it can be difficult. I had and maybe kind of still do, one foot in California, and one foot in Alabama. Slowly friends were drifting and I wondered or seemed to forget who my allies out here were. My friends who worked at AR or spouses of those who do, came out here, and it has been a gift to have them living here right alongside me, going through the changes and sometimes challenges, together. They surprised me with a wedding shower last weekend at the Purveyor, which was so sweet and I had a wonderful time. My coworkers also threw me a bridal shower luncheon, and that was wonderful.
I have started to offload California dreaming, and my needs and hopes of returning. This is my home now. This is where I have landed. Yes it's still a process and a struggle at times, or I throw jokes at it, but this is where I am at. I am not at the intersect of the crossroads anymore, I am home. We are happy and making it work for us. One step at a time, one day at a time!
I honestly feel like it has been a season of change. Matt and I have had so much going on this year. We settled into our new home close to work in Huntsville in January. Rapidly pushed one another to unpack at a sprinter's pace (ok maybe that was just me...)and began to build, what is by far our cozy haven we call home. I put little knick knacks around the house to bring in life and color, and couldn't resist buying a door wreath to fit in with the Jones's.
The entire time we have been planning a wedding that is out of state and a destination dream. I am so glad it will be at a lodge close to my late grandparent's cabin (now owned by my parents). Fall forever people. I am praying there will be leaves everywhere for the big day. From decorations, to fighting over having a first look, to cake ideas, overloading on Pinterest, conversing with family planning with us from the west coast, and imagining our ideal wedding theme, it has been a whirlwind.We chose to go out of the country for our honeymoon; using a tour group saved on so much time and eliminated my stress and worry of trying to deal with a heavy weight. We still had to come up with what we would do before and after tour started, where to stay before and after etc, but it has worked out thankfully.
On top of all, this, Matt has been incredibly busy at work, trying more home projects, and finished an undertaking of building benches for our huge pool table to be a dual use dining table. I am in love with how it turned out. With all of the swirl, and wanting the perfect nest to share with our friends out here, we are becoming hamsters on a broken wheel!
Our relationship has been tested especially with our move out here and leaving our families, sometimes I have been tested by outside forces, or I have tested him, or vice versa. We are truly learning what it is like to be a team, to truly trust one another, and love no matter what the other person's mood or circumstances are. With so much happening in our lives, we committed to once a week date nights, which is a reminder, that although we live in the same place, time together is valuable and essential. It doesn't even have to be going out, it can be staying in, and watching a good show or playing a board game. It makes a huge difference to connect and also spend time with Mia too, who sometimes needs extra attention since we both work 9 hr days.
Amongst all of the crazy, has been my mind trip and standing at the crossroad of unrest and fear, since I arrived. When you plan an out of state wedding, and most of your friends are back home, it can be difficult. I had and maybe kind of still do, one foot in California, and one foot in Alabama. Slowly friends were drifting and I wondered or seemed to forget who my allies out here were. My friends who worked at AR or spouses of those who do, came out here, and it has been a gift to have them living here right alongside me, going through the changes and sometimes challenges, together. They surprised me with a wedding shower last weekend at the Purveyor, which was so sweet and I had a wonderful time. My coworkers also threw me a bridal shower luncheon, and that was wonderful.
I have started to offload California dreaming, and my needs and hopes of returning. This is my home now. This is where I have landed. Yes it's still a process and a struggle at times, or I throw jokes at it, but this is where I am at. I am not at the intersect of the crossroads anymore, I am home. We are happy and making it work for us. One step at a time, one day at a time!
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