Growing Up: Taking the Bull by the Horns
Part of growing up is being able to handle difficult and uncomfortable
situations. Adults do it every day. There is a contradiction to the
idea of situations and circumstances where people can be mean and
ruthless in life. I think there is a boundary for that. I think it is
important to be blunt and honest sure, but to an extent. Watch for how
feelings are hurt or they will come back to bite you in the butt. I
only freely give advice if people ask for it. I am a sensitive person,
but at the same time need to learn to take criticism (even if it means
it’s not something I want to hear). I love being able to help and take
care of people so it makes me appear like a nice individual who
genuinely cares because that’s what I want people to see me as. Here’s
where I think the lines blur, if someone doesn’t show some effort in a
relationship or friendship at all, forget them. I also think
considering the source is very important. You wouldn’t go to a butcher
for nail care now would you? I won’t use examples because that’s
childish. I do want to explain that there are degrees of how we act.
Some people bend over backwards for those they care about and I like
to too. Others could give a rat’s hair if you are there or not. For
myself, when it comes to a person who is manipulating me or my time,
then I become the polite biotch. Here’s the concept, if you let people
wipe their dirty faces on your rag, it won’t be clean. Meaning? Let
everyone walk all over you, do what they want, you will wish you
hadn’t, because you won’t realize it till you are on the ground with
no one to help you. Hard place to be, yes, but you can’t grow if you
do not learn to take care of yourself first. Growing up, I so badly
wanted to control other people and situations…which well, got me
nowhere. The only person you are in charge of is numero uno, (one
person) and that’s yourself. Life has many complications and
challenges that clearly a lot of us may not be prepared for, or don’t
know how to handle them. Here are some awkward moments that might
demonstrate my point: If you didn’t like that your sister stole your
Cheezit’s, how about a neighbor expecting dinner and they look like
they haven’t showered in weeks, spending time with grandpa and you
walked in on him naked, hanging out with an ex and they flirt with
your mom, trying to finish an assignment and someone is over your
shoulder telling you did it wrong and it’s not done, drunk dialing and
you dialed your ex-wife or your boss, spilling coffee all over your
presentation notes, your best friend announces they are a lesbian or
gay, a creepy man wants to sit with you at a bar, and you saw him
peeing outside the building. Use your imagination… (There are so many
more to come up with) and probably even more ridiculous than the ones
I mentioned. Sounds stupid right? It isn’t as awful as we make it out
to be in all truth. People will encounter maybe a select few, but the
key thing to remember is being able to properly deal with each one in
an effective manner. How a person can demonstrate immaturity is not
being able to accept what is happening and fostering nothing but
discontent. Head ups, a situation cannot be solved if you roll it
underneath the carpet, or hide from the discussion you need to have,
or shred a report card you were supposed to give to mom and dad.
Whatever it is, the best thing to do is confront the problem by
grabbing the bull by the horns and admit it sucks, and then work it
out. There is no sense in standing there saying someone can’t do
something just because you inherently told them or showed them they
couldn’t. I know this sounds super harsh, but remind yourself of a
worst case scenario: Someone walks up to you and says, ‘either you get
with the program and finish this assignment, or I’m firing you.’
Pretty scary notion indeed, (hopefully it doesn’t happen to any of
you!) but life forces us to adapt. (Anyone heard of Social Darwinism?)
Never mind if you haven’t, in summary, we have to change surroundings,
outlooks, attitudes, lifestyles, fashion, in order to keep up with the
times or we die. Clearly, I had too much coffee at work today. It’s
simple, choose to be reactive and breakdown and you lose, choose to be
proactive and calm, and you win.
situations. Adults do it every day. There is a contradiction to the
idea of situations and circumstances where people can be mean and
ruthless in life. I think there is a boundary for that. I think it is
important to be blunt and honest sure, but to an extent. Watch for how
feelings are hurt or they will come back to bite you in the butt. I
only freely give advice if people ask for it. I am a sensitive person,
but at the same time need to learn to take criticism (even if it means
it’s not something I want to hear). I love being able to help and take
care of people so it makes me appear like a nice individual who
genuinely cares because that’s what I want people to see me as. Here’s
where I think the lines blur, if someone doesn’t show some effort in a
relationship or friendship at all, forget them. I also think
considering the source is very important. You wouldn’t go to a butcher
for nail care now would you? I won’t use examples because that’s
childish. I do want to explain that there are degrees of how we act.
Some people bend over backwards for those they care about and I like
to too. Others could give a rat’s hair if you are there or not. For
myself, when it comes to a person who is manipulating me or my time,
then I become the polite biotch. Here’s the concept, if you let people
wipe their dirty faces on your rag, it won’t be clean. Meaning? Let
everyone walk all over you, do what they want, you will wish you
hadn’t, because you won’t realize it till you are on the ground with
no one to help you. Hard place to be, yes, but you can’t grow if you
do not learn to take care of yourself first. Growing up, I so badly
wanted to control other people and situations…which well, got me
nowhere. The only person you are in charge of is numero uno, (one
person) and that’s yourself. Life has many complications and
challenges that clearly a lot of us may not be prepared for, or don’t
know how to handle them. Here are some awkward moments that might
demonstrate my point: If you didn’t like that your sister stole your
Cheezit’s, how about a neighbor expecting dinner and they look like
they haven’t showered in weeks, spending time with grandpa and you
walked in on him naked, hanging out with an ex and they flirt with
your mom, trying to finish an assignment and someone is over your
shoulder telling you did it wrong and it’s not done, drunk dialing and
you dialed your ex-wife or your boss, spilling coffee all over your
presentation notes, your best friend announces they are a lesbian or
gay, a creepy man wants to sit with you at a bar, and you saw him
peeing outside the building. Use your imagination… (There are so many
more to come up with) and probably even more ridiculous than the ones
I mentioned. Sounds stupid right? It isn’t as awful as we make it out
to be in all truth. People will encounter maybe a select few, but the
key thing to remember is being able to properly deal with each one in
an effective manner. How a person can demonstrate immaturity is not
being able to accept what is happening and fostering nothing but
discontent. Head ups, a situation cannot be solved if you roll it
underneath the carpet, or hide from the discussion you need to have,
or shred a report card you were supposed to give to mom and dad.
Whatever it is, the best thing to do is confront the problem by
grabbing the bull by the horns and admit it sucks, and then work it
out. There is no sense in standing there saying someone can’t do
something just because you inherently told them or showed them they
couldn’t. I know this sounds super harsh, but remind yourself of a
worst case scenario: Someone walks up to you and says, ‘either you get
with the program and finish this assignment, or I’m firing you.’
Pretty scary notion indeed, (hopefully it doesn’t happen to any of
you!) but life forces us to adapt. (Anyone heard of Social Darwinism?)
Never mind if you haven’t, in summary, we have to change surroundings,
outlooks, attitudes, lifestyles, fashion, in order to keep up with the
times or we die. Clearly, I had too much coffee at work today. It’s
simple, choose to be reactive and breakdown and you lose, choose to be
proactive and calm, and you win.
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