Impending Divorce Rate: marriage has lost it's love and feeling?

Doesn’t anyone believe in good marriages and love anymore?

I break down inside when I hear stories or see that people are getting a divorce, going through one, especially if there are children involved and everyone tells you or the women do to never get married and if you do be sure he’s wonderful. My heart breaks inside when I listen to friends, colleagues, people I have respected or like, broken down or lost, or even angry or sad. The other night a friend of mine messaged me to tell me how their divorce and leaving their children with the other parent makes them ache inside or another who said their spouse was a jerk and was arguing child support, or how a woman has no idea why he wants to leave or why she was not good enough. I understand not every marriage will work, but I do agree strongly, cheating is wrong. I don’t care who you think you are, or who you did it with, infidelity hurts more than a ripped off band aid or the stinging sensation from alcohol applied to sterilize a terrible wound. I can be blamed and criticized for having an incredibly huge heart. However, I can do nothing except sit here trying to understand and not dwell, even if their pain shows through as transparent as a stain on ones clothes. My parents are still married, my aunt and uncle are still married, my sister’s in-laws are still married, she’s still married, my supervisor is, I could list a few more, but I’m losing faith and it’s not even my fight, maybe it’s the Lord’s or it’s theirs. I know it sounds like I am making this a big fat mess or my own personal feelings of the absence of a loved one, but it’s not it’s the cold harsh reality of a looming epidemic that threatens human joy; the very joy in which my friends and I and Christianity try with HIM to believe in and hope for. I go into the heart of a child and I won’t name names, but I know a I have watched some struggle with understanding why mommy and daddy aren’t in the same house anymore, or why they can’t stay and in return creates this ‘distrust and a broken home’. As these kids get older, their sense of emotional stability in relationships is shattered. Marriage these days is about what exactly? Title? Status? Money? Security? Well, because when I was growing up watching all those Disney movies and Tv shows, and playing with my dolls, it was about his and her ‘ I will love you forever’. Blame it on hopeless romanticism and or The Notebook by Nicholas Sparks, but marriage was something to be proud of, something a spouse went home at night saying yea I am married to ‘that’ person and gosh are they awesome. There are some out there in the midst of the rubble (since no one likes a Debbie downer and I still believe!) who love each other and are not afraid to pronounce it. Young marriages can survive, but you have to want to, and by God do you have to love them and I mean really love them (i.e like if they come home late or if they left a book out, or a muddy shoe in the house, or dishes still aren’t done, that you love them, faults, weaknesses, and imperfections. To love a person takes time and effort, team work and communication and it takes support; maybe it is even giving it your all when you have absolutely nothing else to give. Some people are so selfish and their divine interests get in the way of their children, their spouses and their lives. Sure I wouldn’t know love if it hit me on the head, (although I did experience it once) but then again for all of us maybe love has so many forms such as: helping a person study for an important exam, talking someone through a difficult situation, taking care of a person when they are sick, weeping with another when they are crying, carrying the reigns when a person is at their weakest, providing laughter or food for those who have neither, etc. If this isn’t a message or a nail on the head, I clearly do not know what is.