Spread Your Wings and Fly: Thanks for the memories !

There is an ebb and flow to friendships. Friends come into our lives for a time, no telling how long, or when. They come into our lives and teach us something; something for us to learn and grow. My director today encouraged me as I shared about friendships and the changes from your 20s, and 30s, of who comes and goes. She said, as a kid, it is the same. The rules are the same. When you become an adult, it doesn't change. You have more changes that come your way and more that you are responsible for, apart of etc.

The beauty here is that no it does not get easier when you grow up, but it gets clearer and richer, deeper in meaning. Your perception becomes more profound as you begin to mold more and more of who you are.There are challenges, trials, situations you encounter that develop your strength and help you evolve as you learn life's lessons.

Sometimes the lessons are painful. You injure yourself, get in a car accident, drop out of college, are heavy in debt, going through a divorce, loss of a loved one, failed an important test, a friend leaves, a parent never comes home, or you lose your purse on travel. Whatever the case is, it teaches you to be stronger, to love despite being hurt, to work harder despite a failure, to let go despite wanting to hold on, to forgive yourself when you think you are to blame, and so much more! Part of being in conflict with oneself is the refusal to accept the circumstance you are in. The only way to work through this, is to allow yourself to be in it, and to know that you will get through it.

I think it is interesting how people say to be in love with every minute of your life. We all want to be ;). The fact is, we are not like this all the time. Like the roaring tides of a sea shore at night, things have a period of discomfort or a season rather. We feel the rush and roll of the wave over us, as if it will engulf us entirely with how much we have to endure, but it isn't forever. The seas will calm and we will soon float and swim like mermaids and fish, flourishing, and abundant with joy.

I did some self care for myself and deactivated Facebook for awhile. A good friend of mine has chosen a different road, one that I am not on. Goodbye is the hardest thing to say to someone who means the world to you even when goodbye isn't what you wanted. I respect their decision to move on, and live their life.

 Although I am very sad at their departure and for the loss of their wonderful friendship, they taught me many things. I will miss this person very much and wish them all the luck in the world. I am in transition down in Socal with my job and my world. A lot has happened in the last few months, and I have come along way and been through a lot. It is crazy how one minute we think someone will stay and that we hope they will be with us forever, but that is not how the world works. God sends us people who are there for awhile, to teach us something, and maybe we teach them, and when it's time, we appreciate the moments, remember the memories, and let go.

So, to you beautiful, if you are reading this, so long, take care, and as the Irish say: "May the road rise to meet you, May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, The rains fall soft upon your fields."