Parenting : child rearing versus dog ownership
Owning my fur baby although amazing and a blessing in disguise and wonderful for my life and needs, it can be challenging and frustrating. Everyone has their own way of raising kids, so do they with parenting and teaching their animals they own. I have found, it is far better to discuss your problem and or issues with a few people rather than a lot. Sooner or later, everyone is giving you their own advice on how to raise or train said child or kid.
For instance, when I was growing up my parents used a spoon and spankings to punish us when we disobeyed, even put soap on our tongues. In contrast, other parents refuse to discipline their kids, but often find that taking away toys or privileges is enough and sufficient to do the trick to get their kids to learn the rules. So in turn, is it different with dogs, on how owners train and treat them. I know some people who let their dogs lead when talking a walk, sleep in their beds, rule the roost, and eat anything off the table. Others are trained so much they have a cue for almost all they do and some are even well behaved service dogs. At what point can we decipher the level at which we determine what and or who is right or wrong in how they do things; so to say such as with life and or how we are to live it and do it..
The more advice I receive, I either find myself saying screw you, or adopting my own ideas and rules for my own parenting. A week ago, I came home to a kennel where the plastic bottom portion of the crate had been bitten and torn apart by Mia. I wanted to yell, I was so upset. A dog so cute though, you wonder, and so strong too. I hesitated and stood there, nostrils flaring in quasi anger and distress. After sending the photo to several friends, I let myself find the hilarity in it. This dog does not like to be in a cage all day. Put yourself in their shoes. Maybe it is not just anxiety issues anymore. Maybe it is my parenting style, maybe it is something I myself need to work on with her, or maybe it's after all the frustration and the crap, the need to let it go. Nothing is going to be perfect and nor is my parenting.
A couple weeks ago, she peed on my grandpa's carpet and I wanted to blame someone else for my own lack of responsibility taken to let Mia out to go potty. I wasn't dressed, I let her loose, therefore she peed. A dog only does what it knows to be a norm. Reinforcing positive behavior is never sound. Treat training is effective to a point. Mia knows who her owner is, but if anyone else tries to command or lay on the law, she is something else, she is some kind of defiant! Lol, I mean it is sort of funny until you wish she wasn't such a butt, if you will. The same goes for children I am learning. When I have been teaching Sunday School, the lessons are not far off. Do not hit, do not talk back, listen while teacher is talking. No writing on the bathroom wall.
I would have to say this is giving me good practice to if I ever have kids one day. I think also too that some people are bound to lash back and say, "Well if you can't train her to follow the rules, then you shouldn't' have a dog or you shouldn't ask for advice. Hmm, guess I walked into that one. We are all human, I messed up, I am at fault, but I am also a furbaby momma. My little as a personality all her own, and it is up to me, to be the one to give her love, set a boundary, but also show her who is alpha; ha or bring in reinforcements aka a new bigger kennel, which is helping.
I wonder what it is like too for mothers and fathers. Sometimes people tell me stories and they give me great tips for my classes and even when I used to coach swim lessons and babysit. We are never experts when we start. Practice will hopefully be a benefit. I like what my friend of four children said though, "doesn't matter who you are, doesn't matter what you think you have as far as a life plan, nothing and or no one prepares you for parenting, no matter how prepped or ready you think or thought you were!" So bucking up Moxie, about to take lil Miss Rage Cage out for a walk, time to do your business, good girl.
For instance, when I was growing up my parents used a spoon and spankings to punish us when we disobeyed, even put soap on our tongues. In contrast, other parents refuse to discipline their kids, but often find that taking away toys or privileges is enough and sufficient to do the trick to get their kids to learn the rules. So in turn, is it different with dogs, on how owners train and treat them. I know some people who let their dogs lead when talking a walk, sleep in their beds, rule the roost, and eat anything off the table. Others are trained so much they have a cue for almost all they do and some are even well behaved service dogs. At what point can we decipher the level at which we determine what and or who is right or wrong in how they do things; so to say such as with life and or how we are to live it and do it..
The more advice I receive, I either find myself saying screw you, or adopting my own ideas and rules for my own parenting. A week ago, I came home to a kennel where the plastic bottom portion of the crate had been bitten and torn apart by Mia. I wanted to yell, I was so upset. A dog so cute though, you wonder, and so strong too. I hesitated and stood there, nostrils flaring in quasi anger and distress. After sending the photo to several friends, I let myself find the hilarity in it. This dog does not like to be in a cage all day. Put yourself in their shoes. Maybe it is not just anxiety issues anymore. Maybe it is my parenting style, maybe it is something I myself need to work on with her, or maybe it's after all the frustration and the crap, the need to let it go. Nothing is going to be perfect and nor is my parenting.
A couple weeks ago, she peed on my grandpa's carpet and I wanted to blame someone else for my own lack of responsibility taken to let Mia out to go potty. I wasn't dressed, I let her loose, therefore she peed. A dog only does what it knows to be a norm. Reinforcing positive behavior is never sound. Treat training is effective to a point. Mia knows who her owner is, but if anyone else tries to command or lay on the law, she is something else, she is some kind of defiant! Lol, I mean it is sort of funny until you wish she wasn't such a butt, if you will. The same goes for children I am learning. When I have been teaching Sunday School, the lessons are not far off. Do not hit, do not talk back, listen while teacher is talking. No writing on the bathroom wall.
I would have to say this is giving me good practice to if I ever have kids one day. I think also too that some people are bound to lash back and say, "Well if you can't train her to follow the rules, then you shouldn't' have a dog or you shouldn't ask for advice. Hmm, guess I walked into that one. We are all human, I messed up, I am at fault, but I am also a furbaby momma. My little as a personality all her own, and it is up to me, to be the one to give her love, set a boundary, but also show her who is alpha; ha or bring in reinforcements aka a new bigger kennel, which is helping.
I wonder what it is like too for mothers and fathers. Sometimes people tell me stories and they give me great tips for my classes and even when I used to coach swim lessons and babysit. We are never experts when we start. Practice will hopefully be a benefit. I like what my friend of four children said though, "doesn't matter who you are, doesn't matter what you think you have as far as a life plan, nothing and or no one prepares you for parenting, no matter how prepped or ready you think or thought you were!" So bucking up Moxie, about to take lil Miss Rage Cage out for a walk, time to do your business, good girl.
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ReplyDeleteYou're doing good. Just keep at it lol.
ReplyDelete:) thanks Jason lol will do.
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