Sit down eat your meal and perceptions and behavior spread
I am on the go during the week, manage to eat from tupper ware, off the counter, grab a bar, or eat out and grab to go in a bag, quickly scarf and suddenly feel rushed once more. Often the food either sits well or it doesn't last in my stomach if I wolf it down so fast I hardly remember if I had anything. On the weekends, I like to eat on the couch, or stand in the kitchen munching. I keep forgetting how much of an enjoyment it is at the end of the day to eat at the table whether alone or amongst family and friends, it's pleasant. The food actually goes down well and even when a meal is cooked you have left overs and you don't feel like you have paid a fortune to get your nutrition or daily intake. I know I wrote about this before, but I want to say so again, what a joy it is! I often eat while I work, and it takes the break right out of the day all too quickly. When I get an opening, some days I go to the café with coworkers and get away from the desk. I end up feeling much more relaxed when I return, whereas if I eat at the desk, it's chow, or miss your chance on eating altogether, or maybe that's just how I see it. I love eating, whether it's a snack or a meal, whatever it is, FOOD. Who doesn't love food? Food is nourishment hence why eating at the table makes sense.
My perception of someone how I see them may be so different from how they see themselves. My perception of myself for that matter, my quite honestly be different depending on my mood, my confidence towards something, or how I see myself with others. Everything we say has a direct reflection and summation upon ourself. We forget how much the things we say may be recollected by people. If you say something positive, people often go to the negative. But, oh when you say something negative, or complain, or whine, or mouth off (Kap, I'm calling you out on this one), it's amazing how quickly people with associate you with that negative and form an idea based on what you said. Well, this person spoke out of turn, or they said some really nasty things about their colleagues or boss even. People may then think, well if the boss man is so terrible, how come I don't see it that way, maybe that person is terrible, or maybe their perception I agree with. Colin, well I'd like to remind him I'm a forty-niner fan, but Sunday's game was ridiculous. It wasn't just one incident, but several. Some of the refs made bad calls, but our players, these sports guys were getting physical. Picking a fight where it doesn't need to be solves absolutely nothing. How I know this, I've started one and when I was younger it usually meant soap in the mouth or a spanking that followed for each of us who participated. It's not one person that's get busted, THEY ALL DO. Kap made a swear word and cost the team, but it also set the tone for the others where they felt the need to do something similar. Grab a jersey, push off the shoulders of the Bears. Do not get me wrong a close game and well played one is worth watching, but my perceptions of this team seem to fluctuate. Ever notice we do that with people too? How, one day they seem so great and they gave you a dose of awesome cause you were feeling down, and then maybe the next, they cannot stand to be around you, push you out of their space, say they are busy or just go on about how annoying everything is. I think of it as this happy o meter, or something like that. This little meter is our perceptions at work and it ticks along from one side of the spectrum to the other, as if lately all of us cannot decide which end to stick with, so we go with both. The rarity is when you see a balance of that meter of someone who is neither glad or sad, they are just 'eh, as they guys in the coffee break room put it. we build those perceptions up so much and those decide for us. It's hard because what if it's Friday afternoon, and man I'm telling you, you have given 100 percent and if one more person has a task for you, you want to snap back and say " Hey buddy, exit is that way, shift's over the minute you walked in." Well maybe you don't even say it, it's your perception that determines how everything comes together for you. My perception of such and such results in this. why? Because all of these are factors in our lives. Maybe it's like buying a cantaloupe at the grocery story. People pick them up, turn them around, spin them, smell them, size them up and rate them. If it's gooey, or it has a ton of marks, automatically it goes in the 'no buy" pile. The good looking one stands out, or maybe it's shining out like medal in a thrift shop fill of dust. It's a 'keeper' wouldn't you say? We do this with people. We rate them and it's scary. Oh man, you complained a lot today, minus 7, or whew, glad that's over with, I'll see you tomorrow, maybe you won't be such a Debbie downer. Or, hey great times ten, you made my day, wow, hope we get this project finished, but glad I'm working with you, or wow that sure made me feel better when you smiled. Say that cantaloupe is that person. On their bad days, or no buys, you don't want them at all, but oh when they are new, it's not an issue. Right? Now what happens if I challenge it with, if that cantaloupe with all the marks and the greys what happens if I take it home, amd I going to die and get sick, or is it going to be something I work with. Okay so I can't serve this on a fruit platter, but it would make an epic smoothie. See where I'm going with this... You change your perception of them and they are not as bad, or maybe that oh so good is not so great. Crush the melon at home, and find out. Plain English: if we never stick around to build a better perception we will never know not only our own potential but never know someone elses either.
My perception of someone how I see them may be so different from how they see themselves. My perception of myself for that matter, my quite honestly be different depending on my mood, my confidence towards something, or how I see myself with others. Everything we say has a direct reflection and summation upon ourself. We forget how much the things we say may be recollected by people. If you say something positive, people often go to the negative. But, oh when you say something negative, or complain, or whine, or mouth off (Kap, I'm calling you out on this one), it's amazing how quickly people with associate you with that negative and form an idea based on what you said. Well, this person spoke out of turn, or they said some really nasty things about their colleagues or boss even. People may then think, well if the boss man is so terrible, how come I don't see it that way, maybe that person is terrible, or maybe their perception I agree with. Colin, well I'd like to remind him I'm a forty-niner fan, but Sunday's game was ridiculous. It wasn't just one incident, but several. Some of the refs made bad calls, but our players, these sports guys were getting physical. Picking a fight where it doesn't need to be solves absolutely nothing. How I know this, I've started one and when I was younger it usually meant soap in the mouth or a spanking that followed for each of us who participated. It's not one person that's get busted, THEY ALL DO. Kap made a swear word and cost the team, but it also set the tone for the others where they felt the need to do something similar. Grab a jersey, push off the shoulders of the Bears. Do not get me wrong a close game and well played one is worth watching, but my perceptions of this team seem to fluctuate. Ever notice we do that with people too? How, one day they seem so great and they gave you a dose of awesome cause you were feeling down, and then maybe the next, they cannot stand to be around you, push you out of their space, say they are busy or just go on about how annoying everything is. I think of it as this happy o meter, or something like that. This little meter is our perceptions at work and it ticks along from one side of the spectrum to the other, as if lately all of us cannot decide which end to stick with, so we go with both. The rarity is when you see a balance of that meter of someone who is neither glad or sad, they are just 'eh, as they guys in the coffee break room put it. we build those perceptions up so much and those decide for us. It's hard because what if it's Friday afternoon, and man I'm telling you, you have given 100 percent and if one more person has a task for you, you want to snap back and say " Hey buddy, exit is that way, shift's over the minute you walked in." Well maybe you don't even say it, it's your perception that determines how everything comes together for you. My perception of such and such results in this. why? Because all of these are factors in our lives. Maybe it's like buying a cantaloupe at the grocery story. People pick them up, turn them around, spin them, smell them, size them up and rate them. If it's gooey, or it has a ton of marks, automatically it goes in the 'no buy" pile. The good looking one stands out, or maybe it's shining out like medal in a thrift shop fill of dust. It's a 'keeper' wouldn't you say? We do this with people. We rate them and it's scary. Oh man, you complained a lot today, minus 7, or whew, glad that's over with, I'll see you tomorrow, maybe you won't be such a Debbie downer. Or, hey great times ten, you made my day, wow, hope we get this project finished, but glad I'm working with you, or wow that sure made me feel better when you smiled. Say that cantaloupe is that person. On their bad days, or no buys, you don't want them at all, but oh when they are new, it's not an issue. Right? Now what happens if I challenge it with, if that cantaloupe with all the marks and the greys what happens if I take it home, amd I going to die and get sick, or is it going to be something I work with. Okay so I can't serve this on a fruit platter, but it would make an epic smoothie. See where I'm going with this... You change your perception of them and they are not as bad, or maybe that oh so good is not so great. Crush the melon at home, and find out. Plain English: if we never stick around to build a better perception we will never know not only our own potential but never know someone elses either.
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